Friday, April 29, 2011

Fraternal Thoughts has done it again..Is Vision the Most Overrated Leadership Skill?

another great article brought to you from Fraternal Thoughts blog.. Seriously, if you have not checked out this blog, take a moment to do so, and add it to your google reader!

Is Vision the Most Overrated Leadership Skill?

I could use your help here.  I think I've got this one figured out, but I could be totally wrong.

Like many of you reading this, I’ve long held the belief that being visionary is one of the defining characteristics of a good leader. It’s become such conventional wisdom that it’s the rare person who doesn’t begin his/her definition of a leader with vision.

I don’t know if age brings wisdom, but it does bring many opportunities to change one’s mind. At this point in my life, I believe that vision is overrated.

I’m not saying that vision is not important. It certainly can be. I just don’t see it (as some do) as the most important thing a leader does, or really a pre-requisite for leadership at all. In fact, there may be close to a dozen things I would encourage emerging leaders to develop before vision.

Vision is the sexy side of leadership. It’s usually represented as the big, dramatic moment. That’s probably why it gets so much play and too much hype. We can’t often recall history’s doers or implementers, but we certainly remember the visionaries. The problem here is that we begin to treat leaders as the singular heroes who can move mountains with words.

But, you may be wondering, what about Martin Luther King, Jr.? Isn’t he considered one of the greatest leaders of the 20th century, and isn’t that based upon his vision as described in the “I have a dream” speech? There is a reason that the MLK example is used over and over again. It was special. It was rare and one of a kind. Yes, MLK had a vision. But, it wasn’t his vision alone.

By the time he spoke, his vision had been talked about for decades: all people should be treated equal. He just found a different way to say it. So was it his ability to vision or his ability to communicate that really mattered?

Based on this example, I would encourage leaders to develop the ability to write poetically and speak emphatically before focusing on vision.

And – by invoking MLK only when we talk about visionary leadership, we are selling him short. That speech didn’t create the change he wanted. It was each moment when he, and thousands of his supporters, rolled up their sleeves and worked toward the vision that really mattered.

Isn’t visioning fairly easy as well? For something to be considered the most vital of leadership abilities, I think it needs to be more of a challenge than vision appears to be. At its core, it’s imagining an ideal future. We all do that every day. I can do it right now: “I want a world where every child has two parents devoted to his/her well-being.” It took me 5 seconds to come up with that. Does imagining that make me a leader? Of course not.

Any person can stand in a place and see a far distant destination. Isn’t the person that devises a way to get there more important?

Another problem with our love-affair with vision is that it gives our leaders far too easy a pathway to create radical change. As I grow older, I’m starting to observe that there are very few organizations that actually need radical change. What they need is discipline to their mission and their core values. Discipline is a much greater and much more challenging leadership skill than vision. All types of internal and external forces act against an organization, and it’s the disciplined leader that keeps the group focused on what counts.

Vision also tends to be very personal, and leadership is not. Vision is great for that individual who has the luxury to make an organization into whatever he or she wants it to be. What if that’s not your call? What if you lead a fraternity that has been around for over a century and has core values and purpose? Are you serving that organization best by being a visionary leader or by being a disciplined steward?

In addition, you have others working alongside you. You will likely need to build a collective vision with them. And so again, visioning is not the skill needed here - facilitation skills are.

So – for the educators – perhaps we need to stop asking our fraternity or sorority leaders questions like “what is your vision for your chapter” or “how would your chapter be if you could have it any way you wanted it?” Instead, maybe we should ask “how will you help your chapter fulfill its intended purpose?”

If leaders don’t need vision necessarily, what do they need? As opposed to vision, here are the types of things I would encourage the youngest of leaders to try and develop:

Strategic Thinking. This is the ability to take a big idea and consider all the factors acting in favor or in opposition to the idea. Then, it’s devising implementation strategies – steps to take – that will make the idea happen.

Communication Skills. As I mentioned above in reference to MLK, learn how to write both creatively and concisely. Learn also how to speak and listen in engaging ways.  While you do not need to be an extrovert to be a good leader, you do need to communicate well.

Relationship- Building. Have you ever experienced a leader who was big on ideas but couldn’t remember your name? Or someone who was better speaking from a podium than in one-on-one conversations? Did you want to follow those people? Learn how to develop authentic relationships with people long before you learn how to vision.

Critical Thinking. As you grow further as a leader and begin to get involved with complex organizations, you’ll find that instead of being called upon to create a vision, you’ll be more likely called upon to sort through an onslaught of visions and prioritize the most important ones. 

The list could go on and on. Listening skills, emotional intelligence, planning skills, negotiation, etc. I’m not sure how far it would take me to get to vision, but it would take a while.

What are your thoughts? Do we put too great an emphasis on vision for leaders?

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Purple Ribbon

Over the years, a number of sources have been credited with originating the use of purple ribbon as a unifying symbol of courage, survival, honor and dedication to ending domestic violence.

Although the exact history of the purple ribbon is difficult to pinpoint, aross the country, families and friends of victims have adopted the purple ribbon to remember and honor their loved ones who have lost their lives at the hands of a person they once loved and trusted. Shelters and local battered women's programs use the purple ribbon to raise awareness about the crime of domestic violence in their communities.

Purple ribbons are...
  • made into pins and passed out at local events
  • embroidered on t-shirts, hats and bags
  • tied to the antennae of police cars
  • hung on doors
  • wrapped around trees
  • draped over fences at murder scenes
In addition to the demonstration of support for victims and advocates, the display of purple ribbons throughout a community conveys a powerful message that there's no place for domestic violence in the homes, neighborhoods, workplaces or schools of its citizens.

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Recent events..

 The chapter members are "deep" into finals week. The chapter house for the most part is very quite and women can be seen in nearly every room hitting the books studying for their exams.
 photo above is taken in the informal living room of women spread out over all of the couches studying
(pardon the quality as it is from a cell phone)
 Ali was awarded Pi Kappa Phi Sweetheart..
Brooke was 1st Place in Phi Kappa Tau's Dancing with the Greeks Philanthropy

Look forward to post again next week from our summer vacation!

Monday, April 25, 2011

On last Hurrah!

Last week was senior week at Beta Eta. The seniors received scrapbooks created by their little sisters. These scrapbooks were left in the upstairs TV room for all sisters to sign. One this if for sure these scrapbooks become keepsakes for a lifetime. They contain photos, stories, letters, goals and dreams.

Senior week also consisted of Senior Night dinner, where seniors choose the menu, this year appetizer night, a  senior night out of the town- where seniors donned their seniors shirts from the chapter paired with black and neon, glowing necklaces, and some even donned tutus. From the looks of it they had a blast!!!

This week is exam week, so things will be pretty quite around the house, as sisters study for finals and seniors prepare for graduation. 


Friday, April 22, 2011

Fratty Friday- Real issues collegiate women are facing..

Two very powerful videos for us to reflect upon today. 
Eating Disorders are a very real issue that many collegiate women deal with today.



if you know someone who is struggling with an Eating Disorder, please reach out, and partner with them on the issue. Together we can fight the issue, and find a solution
Thank you to our fraternal friends at Tri-Delta for the 2nd video

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

"Dead week" is here

Yes, that is the slang term for the week before final exams.. and while girls would rather be at the beach, they are finding themselves in Strozier library studying! Just one more week and it will be summer time for for all. Look forward to sharing summer plans with you in upcoming weeks!!! Until then best of luck to all collegians everywhere who are studying for finals..
(Photo from all chapter retreat a few weekends ago)

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Alumnae Spotlight

Congratulations to our newest alumnae members.. The 2011 Spring Beta Eta graduates..

Below are the ladies (minus a few) celebrating Hall of Commitment!!!

Monday, April 18, 2011

BH's VP Education & Assistant head to HQ

This weekend the chapters VP Education, Caitlin, & her assistant, Erin headed to Alpha Chi Omega HQ in Indianapolis for MyJourney Training. While the weather was quite cold, & rainy in Indy- the women kept a positive attitude and were able to get a great deal out of the program..
 VP Education Advisor, Jennifer (Theta Lamba/pictured below with her brick ) attended along with Chapter Advisor Britain.
 The Founders Pathway Garden behind HQ is a beautiful addition to the property! We especially loved the rod iron lyres. One of them being a donation from our very own BH Alumna, Aggie! We were also quite excited to see BH recognized for reaching Presidents Roll (minimum of $100,000 in cumulative Foundation giving) on the wall at HQ..
 So why were we there? Beta Eta is one of 10 Alpha Chi Omega chapters, that piloted the new 4 year experience program during the 2010-2011 school year. The chapter launched the Freshman and Junior programs, and will continue to pilot the program during the 2011-2012 school year. The 4 year experience program "MyJourney" is an amazing program that allows women of the chapter to attend workshops that are targeted to experiences and events that they are experiencing at their time in college. 

Friday, April 15, 2011

Fraternity is Like a Baseball Game

Another amazing article from Fraternal Thoughts Blog

The impending arrival of April signals the return of America’s pastime, the great sport of baseball.  There’s nothing like the smell of freshly cut grass joined together with the aroma of roasted peanuts.  The silence of winter is broken by the sound of a THWACK as wood bat meets cowhide ball, and the WHUMP of a fist pounding a freshly oiled glove until it’s ready to field a grounder.

I love baseball for many reasons, including its lessons about life, leadership, and fraternity.  Here are a few:

Moments of Consequence
While baseball is a team sport, it is full of moments of individual consequence.  Whereas in some team sports (e.g., soccer) it’s easy to be anonymous and hidden in lieu of the team, individuals often take center stage in baseball.  There are moments when a player can try to hide (think little league right-fielders), but they can’t stay hidden forever.  At some point, it will be their turn and they’ll stand at home plate with a bat in hand and the world watching.  And chances are for that batter, it will end badly.  A good batting average is .300.  This means that a great batter will strike out two-thirds of the time!

And so, while a player will have many moments when he makes contact with the ball and gets on base or even drives in a run, that same player will have more moments when he will take a long slow walk back to the dugout in defeated silence.  He let down his team.  It’s gut-wrenching.  Learning to handle that defeat and be resilient is one of the best character lessons baseball can teach. 

In fraternity, there are also moments of consequence; moments when the fraternity is counting on an individual player.  The intensity of the fraternity or sorority experience can create those gut-wrenching moments because you just don’t want to let your brothers or sisters down.  It could be falling short on a project, failing to meet academic standards, or making an unethical and haunting choice.

Of course, there will be moments of glorious success when a member can trot the bases as applause thunders around him.  But how about those times in which he fails?  How does he show his character in those moments? 

Moments of Glory, Moments of Sacrifice
It’s the bottom of the ninth inning with the score tied and two outs.  The star player comes to bat and the crowd is shouting for him to send the ball over the left field fence.  He obliges and launches a huge home run that wins the game.  The crowd goes wild as he soaks in the glory of a momentous occasion.

It’s the next night.  Again, it’s the bottom of the ninth inning, with the score tied and a runner on first.  There are no outs.  Th star player comes to bat and the crowd is shouting for him to send the baseball over the left field fence again.  As the first pitch comes, the star player crouches down and bunts to ball only a few feet in front of the plate.  It’s an easy out for the catcher who throws the ball to first.  Meanwhile, the runner who was on first was able to make it to second.  He is now in scoring position, meaning that all it takes is a base hit to bring him home. 

The star player did the furthest thing from hitting a home run, but the crowd still applauds loudly as he returns to the dugout.  Why?  He just sacrificed his success so that the team had a better chance to win.

The next batter gets a base hit, the runner scores, and the game is won.

A fraternity can be a wonderful vehicle for individual achievement and glory.  In fact, there is no sweeter feeling than succeeding in the company of your brothers or sisters. 

A fraternity can also be a wonderful vehicle for invidual sacrifice.  We all take an oath to an organization that we are expected to care for.  Fraternity helps us learn the power and satisfaction of contributing to a cause greater than our own self interests.

In short, there will be times to bunt and times to knock it out of the park.

Many Different Strengths Lead to Success
Babe Ruth, widely considered to be the best baseball player ever, had a body type closer to mine than Bo Jackson, and that’s not a compliment.  Baseball players succeed for many different reasons, all based upon the strengths they bring to the team.  Some, like Ricky Henderson, use lightning quick speed to be a terror on the bases.  Some, like Cecil Fielder, are as big as a sumo wrestler and can hit a ball into the next county.  Others, like Derek Jeter, use their reflexes to field any ball that comes their way.  And even others, like Cal Ripken, Jr. have such good hand-eye coordination that they rarely strike out.

A good manager will use players with particular strengths at opportune times.  If he needs a runner to steal a base, he bring in a speedy pinch runner.  If a left-handed pitcher has a better chance of striking out the batter, he’ll call to the bullpen. 

There is also a science to how managers make out their batting order so that strengths are maximized.

In the same way, good fraternities allow their members to use their strengths as much as possible.  Those skilled at the art of conversation are on the front lines for recruitment.  Those who have strong fiscal sense excel as Treasurers.  Good writers can put together newsletters for the organization. There is no singular skill set for a good fraternity member. 

The Moments Between the Action
One of the primary reasons I love baseball as I grow older is the pace of play.  This is also why so many people hate baseball.  I admit, it can move pretty slow.  But, at some point in your life, you may agree with me that slow is something to cherish.

The slow moments are often the times when friendship is strengthened.  When you watch a baseball game, pay attention to when the cameras turn to the pitchers in the bullpen.  It’s rare when they aren’t smiling or laughing as they pass the time waiting for their turn.  The same can be said for the dugouts.  Camaraderie is very evident in baseball.

And there is a reason why baseball is still the best spectator sport for families and friends.  There is little to do between innings than to turn to that person sitting beside you in the tight quarters of a ballpark and just talk with them.  Fathers and mothers and sons and daughters and friends and neighbors taking the time for conversation.  Oh, how we need that more than ever.

The undergraduate fraternity experience is much more fast-paced than most people want or expect.  There is much to be gained by cherishing the moments “between innings” when there is nothing more to do than to sit next to a brother or sister and talk about life. 

For life, like a baseball game, is meant to be savored. 

So, those are a few reasons why I love baseball and even believe it should be considered the official sport of fraternity.  But, I’m biased.  It should be noted that baseball certainly has its share of problems as well.  The whole steroids issue is a sticky one, and I wrote about it a couple of years ago.

Despite those challenges, I will continue to watch and observe the great lessons the game can teach us.  Count me among those who get a little extra spring in their step as the air gets warmer, the skies get bluer, and baseball players across the land take the field.

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Fighting for a World Where Girls Are Not for Sale

Thank you to ETE Alumnae Chapter President, & BH Fraternity Relations advisor for this post:

I heard a portion of the Diane Rehm show Thursday, April 7th, during which she interviewed Rachel Lloyd, author of Girls Like Us: Fighting for a World Where Girls Are Not for Sale Listen to the episode here.



Girls Like Us: Fighting for a World Where Girls Are Not for Sale, an Activist Finds Her Calling and Heals HerselfI've added it to my to-read list. Here's the synopsis from amazon.com: "British-born Rachel Lloyd dropped out of school at 13 to support her single alcoholic mother. With little opportunity, she soon found herself spiraling into a life of torment and abuse as a sexually exploited girl. Vulnerable yet tough, Rachel broke free of the street and her pimp thanks to help of a local church. But that was just the beginning...Three years later, Rachel arrived in America as a missionary working with adult women in the sex industry. As she began to meet teenage girls who shared her experiences, she decided to found her own non profit,GEMS-Girls Educational and Mentoring Services- on her kitchen table to meet the needs of girls who were shunned by society. Along the way she earned her GED and won a full scholarship to college and a graduate program. Today, Lloyd is the founder and director of GEMS in Harlem, one of the most ground-breaking nonprofit organizations in the U.S. In stunning detail and with cinematic style, Lloyd tells her life story - a harrowing and inspirational tale of suffering, recovery, discovery, and nobility. She reveals the dark, secretive world of her past with clarity, understanding, humanity, and psychological insight. A fierce and passionate crusader, Lloyd explains the factors-including, addiction, abuse, poverty-that lead so many vulnerable young women into sexual exploitation. She explains the seduction of pimps and johns, the biases of cops, the racial stereotyping, the sexism of the courts. And she lovingly talks about her successes, sharing stories of her girls whose lives she has helped. It is these small victories which have healed her wounds and made her whole. Deeply moving, authentic and brave, "Girls Like Us" is a remarkable, deeply moving, and utterly unforgettable memoir."

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

A Family Affair



Alpha Chi's Sorority Families.

To us, family means putting your arms around each other and being there. ~Barbara Bush


















































Photographer: Kendall Scarlett
A talented sister who's photos tell our story.


Meet our Spring 2011 New Members!


Porter Ellen, Sonja Stenzel, Elyse Sibley, Tara Kerr, Taylor Royale, Lacy Marie Bizek, and Carolyn Scopa.

They are everything and more. This new class of sisters embodies the criteria Alpha Chi Omega stands for. They are sweet, beautiful, and dedicated ladies who strive for academic excellence and making our bond that much sweeter.

note to those interested: the chapter was able to COB spring new members due to Panhellenic raising chapter total, and the success of a handful of chapter women graduating early, thus entering the alumnae chapter of Alpha Chi Omega in December of 2010!

Monday, April 11, 2011

Successful Par-Tee Weekend..

This past week/weekend was Beta Eta's annual philanthropy week. Ending with Par-Tee Charity Golf Tournament and Tea on Saturday. Below are some photos from the event. We will be back on Wednesday to give full details of the event, including money raised for the Refuge House!!! & the charities the winners selected, etc..  Hope you can make it for Par-Tee 2012!








Friday, April 8, 2011

hazing hurts

a great video from Phi Delta Theta

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Domestic Violence Awareness....

For those collegians and alumnae living in Tallahassee, be sure to check out to Domestic Violence exhibit in Stroizer library

By Doug Blackburn • DEMOCRAT Senior WRITER • Published: March 23. 2011
Strozier Library patrons will have more than friends, Facebook and the occasional homework assignment to focus on during the next three weeks.

An engaging exhibit called See Red was unveiled Tuesday at Florida State University's main library. It features four crimson mannequins and tells their inter-connected stories as they relate to domestic violence.

"A batterer doesn't slow down when he sees red," said Kisha Wilkinson, assistant news director at WTXL-TV and a domestic violence survivor.

Wilkinson, one of three speakers at Tuesday's press event, shared her horrifying story of being beaten by "the man of my dreams," her husband. He is serving a 20-year sentence for the violence he inflicted on Wilkinson and her teenage daughter in 2008."My dream marriage became my nightmare— a nightmare I still remember," Wilkinson said. "Every time I share this story, the pain does ease up a little. It's helping me to heal."

Robin Leach, associate dean of students at FSU, said her office sees the impact of domestic violence on students on a daily basis. FSU's 24-hour Victim Advocate Program is reporting higher numbers in 2011 than at this time last year, she added."Thirty-two percent of our students report dating violence by a former partner," Leach said.

Ghia Kelly, training and community education program director at Refuge House, the Big Bend's shelter for victims of domestic violence, said her agency is encountering ever younger clients. It's not unusual for Refuge House to work with middle-school students, she said.
"Dating violence is a huge issue. It's something we need to talk to our children about," Kelly said.
Children who witness abuse are twice as likely to become perpetrators or abusers, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, and child abuse occurs in 50 to 70 percent of the homes where there is domestic abuse.

See Red is a community awareness program sponsored by Verizon Wireless. The exhibit is located in the Learning Commons on Strozier Library's first floor, and it will be on display until April 14.

if any one makes it to the show, please be sure to snap a few photos, and we will add them to the blog. Send us an email at axofloridastate {at} gmail {dot} com

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Alpha Chi's Annual Philanthropy Week

This week marks Alpha Chi Omega's annual philanthropy week!
Each day of this week, the ladies of Alpha Chi come together and provide several events for their community which exhibit the leadership and support each has for their philanthropy.

Listed below are the events in which each sister must participate in.

Tuesday (Yesterday) - Walk a Mile in Her Shoes: If you happened to be on campus at 5 pm, you probably saw plenty of men walking around in high heal shoes. Yes, we managed to find sizes twelve through fourteen for these willing gentleman to run around Florida State's campus in high heal shoes to support the efforts of awareness. It was a comic relief at it's best!

Thursday - The sisters gather around their front lawn, circling hand-in-hand to form the DVA vigil. Many other Panhellenic women and local Tallahassee patrons who support the cause also come together to join this inspirational vigil.


Friday - All of the Par Tee guests are invited for Mom Marie's famous Friday Lunch! This will provide the golfers a chance to meet the sisters that host the golf tournament, and understand the importance of Domestic Violence Awareness. It is also a fantastic way to feed all of the hungry fraternity boys who's passion for volunteering and playing for a good cause is greatly appreciated.

Saturday - The annual golf tournament, Par Tee kicks off! It truly is a wonderful event that allows the golfers to have fun and play for a fantastic cause. Each sister is willing to help during this event, and takes the time to make sure every opportunity is spent supporting the efforts of awareness. There is a closest to the hole competition, where golfers try to make their shot closest to the hole. Of course, all of the proceeds from the competition and the silent auction, which this year includes a signed Jimbo Fisher and Christian Ponder football, go to the overall fund.

Last year Alpha Chi's philanthropy was voted Number 1 most outstanding philanthropy on Florida State's campus. This year, we shall hope for the same outcome as we all stand together as sisters and brothers in the fight against Domestic Violence.
Alpha Chi Omega - Supporting the efforts of Domestic Violence Awareness. Always and Forever.

Remember,
Together Let Us Seek the Heights!

-JKC.

Monday, April 4, 2011

Annual Sisterhood Retreat

 This weekend, while some members of our chapter traveled to SEPC (see below post) the rest of the chapter traveled to St. George Island Beach, for our annual Sisterhood Retreat. Past retreats have included Skiing in North Carolina, and White Water Rafting in Tennessee.

The event always promises to be a good time, as it is a day/weekend set aside for sisters to reunite our bonds, relax, and get away!!

This year, the beautiful beach scenery, and relaxing day in the sun, was all the chapter could of hoped for.