Thursday, May 26, 2011

Silent Witness

The Goal
The Silent Witness National Initiative seeks to promote peace, healing and responsibility in adult relationships. The Initiative's goal is to reach zero domestic murders by 2010 through successful community-based domestic violence reduction efforts.

How The Initiative Began
In 1990, a group of women artists and writers, alarmed by the growing number of women in Minnesota being murdered by their partners or acquaintances, joined together with several other women's organizations to form Arts Action Against Domestic Violence.

They felt an urgency to do something that would speak out against the escalating domestic violence in their state, something that would commemorate the lives of the 26 women whose lives had been lost in 1990 as a result of domestic violence. Tthey decided to create 26 free-standing, life-sized red wooden figures, each one bearing the name of a woman who once lived, worked, had neighbors, friends, family, children--whose life ended violently at the hands of a husband, ex-husband, partner, or acquaintance. A twenty-seventh figure was added to represent those uncounted women whose murders went unsolved or were erroneously ruled accidental. The organizers called the figures the Silent Witnesses. Names of the 26 women can be accessed on the Silent Witness National Initiative WebSite.

The Debut
On February 18, 1991, more than 500 women met at a church across the street from the Minnesota State Capitol with the newly-constructed Witnesses. The women formed a silent procession escorting the figures single file across the street, up the steps, and into the State Capitol Rotunda for public statements and a press conference. The sheer volume of space the figures occupied spoke of their power and the loss. The Silent Witness Exhibit was officially launched.
The National Initiative
1994 saw the formation of a national initiative dedicated to the elimination of domestic murder, starting with the creation of Silent Witness exhibits in communities across the country. Within one year a total of 800 Silent Witnesses had been created to represent women who were killed as a result of domestic violence in seventeen states. By October 1997, exhibits had been established in all 50 states.

To find our how you can become involved, please contact:

The Silent Witness National Initiative
20 Second St., Suite 1101
Minneapolis, MN 55413
Telephone (612) 377-6629
Fax (612) 374-3956
E-mail info@silentwitness.net

Information from the Silent Witness National Initiative web site

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Empty Place at the Table

Following a cluster of domestic violence murders in Lackawanna County, Pennsylvania in 1993, the community responded by holding a rally and march outside the courthouse. In an effort to continue the community involvement, education and commemoration, rally organizers and the Women's Resource Center, Inc. worked together to create the Empty Place at the Table exhibit.

This exhibit comprises victims' place settings, photographs and personal items, as well as newspaper clippings about the homicides. The exhibit works to:
  • Recognize the individuality of each victim
  • Establish a way to mourn the loss of their lives
  • Raise awareness about domestic violence and its impact on our communities
  • Ensure these deaths are not forgotten
Domestic violence program advocates and community members can replicate the exhibit to honor the victims of domestic violence homicides. For more information, please contact:

Women's Resource Center, Inc.
Telephone (570) 346-4460 x242
Fax (570) 346-3413
Web http://www.wrcnepa.org/epatt.php

information from here

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Collegiate Spotlight- University Of Alabama Greeks

Today I have to share what the Greek Students at University of Alabama have been working on since the Tornadoes hit their community. It is truly amazing, how the entire Greek System rallied together for the good of their community. From each sorority collecting different items, to various fraternity houses cooking, to hundreds of students volunteering. It was truly a labor of love, and one that I am proud to share!

UA Greek Relief!! Together they provided over 52,000 hot meals to the victims and relief workers of Tuscaloosa. Please note the "job" is far from over. It will take years for the city to recover. Please visit www.uagreekrelief.com for more ways to help



And for those Alpha Chi's reading All of U of A Alpha Chi staff and members are accounted for and safe. However 2 staff members lost everything. The chapter has set up an account at at Bryant Bank in town called Alpha Chi Omega Relief Fund to assist those staff members. Checks can be mailed to Caroline Fulmer  (one of the advisers) at AXO at PO Box 861448, Tuscaloosa, AL 35486.

National Call for Unity...

To honor the tradition of the National Day of Unity, the Domestic Violence Awareness Project Advisory Group decided to organize a National Call for Unity. The idea was to provide advocates with an opportunity for a collective, shared experience that would not distract from their ongoing support of survivors, their daily work to end violence, or their planned DVAM activities. Further, in observance of DVAM 2010, the NRCDV commissioned a unique and vibrant piece of artwork from Lauren Komarek, a young artist who works as an illustrator, graphic designer and sculptor. Highlighting the traditional themes of DVAM, the artwork features the words "Domestic Violence Awareness Month: mourn celebrate connect" with 3 young people looking forward to a different world, a world free from violence and coercive control.
Listen to the National Call for Unity
On this free 45-minute call, several national organizations, governmental agencies, local domestic violence programs, advocates, allies, survivors and their family and friends gathered together to connect and refocus our efforts as Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) 2010 began. Following welcoming remarks from Kenya Fairley, Program Manager with the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence (NRCDV), everyone on the call was welcomed by Tina Chen, Executive Director of the White House Council on Women and Girls. Next, Lynn Rosenthal, White House Advisor on Violence Against Women, shared her comments about DVAM and introduced the recorded remarks of Vice President Joe Biden, who was unable to be present on the call himself. Maria Luisa O’Neill, with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence continued the call by explaining the history behind the National Day of Unity.
Then, after being introduced by Sue Else, President of the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV), Victor Rivas Rivers, NNEDV National Spokesperson, actor, author, athlete and activist shared his moving story of abuse, survival, and activism. We also heard a dramatic recitation by Kimberly Collins of her nationally renowned poem, Remember My Name. After sharing in a collective moment of silence for all the women, children, and men who have lost their lives to domestic violence, Rev. Dr. Aleese Moore-Orbih of the FaithTrust Institute prayed for all the victims, survivors, their family, friends, advocates, and allies as we continue our work to end violence in our homes, our families, and our communities. To conclude the call, Ambar Hansen of Casa de Esperanza encouraged everyone to join their Pledge of Hope Campaign and Diane Perez of the National Domestic Violence Hotline shared details about being an advocate for women, children, and men that experience domestic violence.
Writings: Poetry and Prayer
As human beings we are blessed with the ability to express ourselves through language and, by extension, the written word. From the beginning of time, words have been used to capture the mundane details of life, identify objects, show the way to hidden places, record history, and foretell the future. There is also power in words where they allow us to share our innermost thoughts, feelings and ideas. Writing allows us to harness our energy, both positive and negative, and our words bear witness to our lives. While we all have the ability to write ourselves into diaries, essays, blogs, journals, articles and poems, there comes a time when an individual will so accurately capture the essence of a movement with their words.
Over a decade ago in 1995, Kimberly A. Collins wrote Remember My Name, a poem that has been used by Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) observances to memorialize victims that have lost their lives to the horrific epidemic of domestic violence. During the 2010 National Call for Unity, as part of the kick-off to DVAM, Ms. Collins recited this poem in the hopes that through spoken words we will never forget the names or the lives of those lost to domestic violence, that we should continue to heal through our shared connections and experiences, and that we shall remain committed in our efforts to end violence in our homes, our families, and communities.
  • “Remember My Name” by Kimberly Collins [PDF] (prints on legal sized 11"x14" paper)
  • “Prayer for Continued Courage” by Rev. Dr. Aleese Moore-Orbih [PDF] (prints on standard sized 8 1/2" x 11" paper)
Related Domestic Violence Awareness Month Blogs and Campaigns
  • Read the Council on Women and Girls White House Blog to learn more about the efforts of the White House to end violence against women and girls. “Ending Violence Against Women,” posted by Lynn Rosenthal on October 5, 2010 to the White House Council on Women and Girls Blog. To join the Council for Women and Girls Listserv, please send your email contact information to public@who.eop.gov.
  • Activate your social media network to support the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) DVAM Campaigns and help raise funds for domestic violence programs across the country. NNEDV encourages people to text the word HOPE to 41010 to make a $10 donation; listen to and share a public service announcement from Dr. Phil McGraw about his season-long campaign to “End the Silence on Domestic Violence” through YouTube; and promote the “Tell a Gal Pal” pledge through Facebook.
  • In October 1994 the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), in conjunction with Ms. Magazine, created the "Remember My Name" Project, a national registry to increase public awareness of domestic violence related deaths. Since then, NCADV has been collecting information on women who have been killed by an intimate partner and produces a poster each October for Domestic Violence Awareness Month, listing the names of those documented in that year.
  • Show Your Support: Sign on to the FaithTrust Institute National Declaration by Religious and Spiritual Leaders to Address Violence Against Women.
  • Believing that domestic violence will end only when it is no longer acceptable to each of us, Casa de Esperanza has launched the national Hope Campaign to raise awareness and encourage people from across the country to take action to end domestic violence.
    • Pledge of Hope Campaign Flyer (English) [PDF]
    • Esperanza Campaign Flyer (Spanish) [PDF]
  • In support of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, Shop for a Cause during Domestic Violence Awareness Month. More than 22,000 callers reach out to the Hotline for help each month, and it is vital that each call be answered. Your donations ensure that Hotline Advocates are available around the clock and around the country.
information from here

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Summer Internships....

This summer our very own Julianna Corso, will be interning in Birstol, CT for ESPN. I'd like to think she is the next Erin Andrews or Jenn Brown. Only she will support the Seminoles (both Erin and Jenn graduated from the "other" Florida Institution, UF). Follow Julianna on her Blog here.

It’s time to channel your hunger for success.

You’ve been dreaming of this day for years. Finally it’s time to put all that education, knowledge and ambition into the start of a career – and there’s no better place than at ESPN. We should warn you though, – it’s not for the faint of heart.At ESPN, we move at the speed of fiber optics and satellite signals, and televise 24/7 among multiple platforms. You’ll be mentored by the best in the business and relied upon by millions of viewers. You’ll also be put right in the thick of a global icon in multimedia sports entertainment. It’s your opportunity to start a career where you can finally shine.BusinessWeek ranked the Walt Disney Company (parent company of ESPN/ABC) as one of the top companies to start your career, it also ranked Disney #11 on internship opportunities for undergraduates. Disney was ranked No. 7 in Fortune Magazine’s Top 100 Most Desirable MBA Employers. Boston College's Carroll School of Management has Disney topping the list of 50 companies recognized as leaders in corporate social responsibility. DiversityInc named Disney as one of the top 50 companies for diversity.
 And if you are wondering.. Yes, Julianna is related to the loved, Lee Corso. She is a 5th Generation Nole!

 
she writes "I wish I could have seen the Sunshine Scooter break the record for most interceptions in one season..."
 Above is Julianna's dad, Julianna, Lee, fellow BH & Younger sister Annalise, and soon to be Alumna Initiate of BH, mom Kim

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Alumna Stoplight- Kat

Kat is a 2006 initiate of the Beta Eta chapter, and 2010 graduate from Florida State University. She is currently attending University of Miami Law School, and will graduate 2013.

Join Kat as she blogs about fashion, fun & the life of a law student at Law Abiding Fashionista.

In her own words:
"I'm just a 23 year old trying to enjoy life while looking fabulous. I'm originally from the beautiful city of Fort Lauderdale. I attended Florida State University to major in Partying, but my degree said Political Science and Psychology. Since I was in Tallahassee, I decided to keep it classy and join the lovely sorority of Alpha Chi Omega. I got to serve them as Recruitment Chair because of my fine abilities: to coordinate napkins, pose in front of doors, walk down stairs in my heels but still smiling, and make you NEED to be an Alpha Chi Omega. I then came to Miami to pursue my delusional dreams of a legal career at the University of Miami Law School. Miami is an amazing city; it reminds me to exercise, tan, and shop... oh yeah and that thing called school as well. I can't tell you why I wanted to be a lawyer except that I have a fetish for the lavish fashion of women's business clothes, and what a way to start then becoming a lawyer. I want to open my own boutique one day, not sure when. You could say my current activities are “technically” a law student, student loan budget fashionista, weekend pre-party DJ Gato, a carb fearing twenty something, and a full time DREAMER."

Friday, May 6, 2011

National Women's Health Week

Sunday is Mother's Day and the start of National Women's Health Week. Check out the resources available for the week, on the NPC website (and through the links below) and be sure to remind all the women in your life to make health a priority.
Check out the links below for materials that will help you plan events, reach out to the media and more.

Women's Health Week Fact Sheet
Women's Health Week Celebration Ideas
Checklist for Women's Health Week Event
Tips for Building an Event Partnership
Registering Your Women's Health Week Event
How-To-Guide for Media Outreach
Issuing and Using a Proclamation
For additional information on National Women's Health Week, visit www.womenshealth.gov/whw. 

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Tornado Warning Review

VP Fraternity Relations Advisor recently posted an excellent book review on her blog. She began reading  Tornado Warning: A Memoir of Teen Dating Violence and its Effect on a Woman's Life as soon as it came out earlier this year. The book is the true story of the author, Elin Waldal, how she came to be in a violent relationship as a teen (it's so true that it can happen to anyone), her experience in the relationship, ending it, and the long-term impact it has had on her life.

This is one of the bravest authors you will ever read. Not only does she share her story, she exposes everything she was going through by using excerpts from journals she kept at the time. Here's an example:

"What people don't seem to get is the guy doesn't haul off and hit you on the first date. First there is the falling in love, followed by the extreme need, and then there's this slow erosion of self until without noticing it, the woman becomes unrecognizable even to herself"
The other thing that sets this book apart from other similar memoirs (like Leslie Morgan Steiner's Crazy Love which I recommend here) is the way the author shares the aftermath. What happens to you in a relationship like this stays with you for a long time. Recovery is not easy; it takes time, patience, and determination.

Reading this book could save someone's life.

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Alumna Spotlight- Liz Edmunds


Liz is a 2007 initiate of Beta Eta, and served as the chapter president in 2010! She is a 2011 graduate of Florida State University. She currently lives in West Palm Beach, Florida with her boyfriend Scott.

Be sure to follow her blog Le Favorite Things as she chronicles the some of her favorite things: design, DIY, shelter blogs, and finding inspiration in lovely images. Her blog also chronicles her adventures (and misadventures) in finding her first home and filling it with her favorite things.

above is an amazing headboard that Liz and her boyfriend created!!!

Monday, May 2, 2011

Congratulations to the Graduating Seniors..

 Congratulations to graduating seniors..


Friday, April 29, 2011

Fraternal Thoughts has done it again..Is Vision the Most Overrated Leadership Skill?

another great article brought to you from Fraternal Thoughts blog.. Seriously, if you have not checked out this blog, take a moment to do so, and add it to your google reader!

Is Vision the Most Overrated Leadership Skill?

I could use your help here.  I think I've got this one figured out, but I could be totally wrong.

Like many of you reading this, I’ve long held the belief that being visionary is one of the defining characteristics of a good leader. It’s become such conventional wisdom that it’s the rare person who doesn’t begin his/her definition of a leader with vision.

I don’t know if age brings wisdom, but it does bring many opportunities to change one’s mind. At this point in my life, I believe that vision is overrated.

I’m not saying that vision is not important. It certainly can be. I just don’t see it (as some do) as the most important thing a leader does, or really a pre-requisite for leadership at all. In fact, there may be close to a dozen things I would encourage emerging leaders to develop before vision.

Vision is the sexy side of leadership. It’s usually represented as the big, dramatic moment. That’s probably why it gets so much play and too much hype. We can’t often recall history’s doers or implementers, but we certainly remember the visionaries. The problem here is that we begin to treat leaders as the singular heroes who can move mountains with words.

But, you may be wondering, what about Martin Luther King, Jr.? Isn’t he considered one of the greatest leaders of the 20th century, and isn’t that based upon his vision as described in the “I have a dream” speech? There is a reason that the MLK example is used over and over again. It was special. It was rare and one of a kind. Yes, MLK had a vision. But, it wasn’t his vision alone.

By the time he spoke, his vision had been talked about for decades: all people should be treated equal. He just found a different way to say it. So was it his ability to vision or his ability to communicate that really mattered?

Based on this example, I would encourage leaders to develop the ability to write poetically and speak emphatically before focusing on vision.

And – by invoking MLK only when we talk about visionary leadership, we are selling him short. That speech didn’t create the change he wanted. It was each moment when he, and thousands of his supporters, rolled up their sleeves and worked toward the vision that really mattered.

Isn’t visioning fairly easy as well? For something to be considered the most vital of leadership abilities, I think it needs to be more of a challenge than vision appears to be. At its core, it’s imagining an ideal future. We all do that every day. I can do it right now: “I want a world where every child has two parents devoted to his/her well-being.” It took me 5 seconds to come up with that. Does imagining that make me a leader? Of course not.

Any person can stand in a place and see a far distant destination. Isn’t the person that devises a way to get there more important?

Another problem with our love-affair with vision is that it gives our leaders far too easy a pathway to create radical change. As I grow older, I’m starting to observe that there are very few organizations that actually need radical change. What they need is discipline to their mission and their core values. Discipline is a much greater and much more challenging leadership skill than vision. All types of internal and external forces act against an organization, and it’s the disciplined leader that keeps the group focused on what counts.

Vision also tends to be very personal, and leadership is not. Vision is great for that individual who has the luxury to make an organization into whatever he or she wants it to be. What if that’s not your call? What if you lead a fraternity that has been around for over a century and has core values and purpose? Are you serving that organization best by being a visionary leader or by being a disciplined steward?

In addition, you have others working alongside you. You will likely need to build a collective vision with them. And so again, visioning is not the skill needed here - facilitation skills are.

So – for the educators – perhaps we need to stop asking our fraternity or sorority leaders questions like “what is your vision for your chapter” or “how would your chapter be if you could have it any way you wanted it?” Instead, maybe we should ask “how will you help your chapter fulfill its intended purpose?”

If leaders don’t need vision necessarily, what do they need? As opposed to vision, here are the types of things I would encourage the youngest of leaders to try and develop:

Strategic Thinking. This is the ability to take a big idea and consider all the factors acting in favor or in opposition to the idea. Then, it’s devising implementation strategies – steps to take – that will make the idea happen.

Communication Skills. As I mentioned above in reference to MLK, learn how to write both creatively and concisely. Learn also how to speak and listen in engaging ways.  While you do not need to be an extrovert to be a good leader, you do need to communicate well.

Relationship- Building. Have you ever experienced a leader who was big on ideas but couldn’t remember your name? Or someone who was better speaking from a podium than in one-on-one conversations? Did you want to follow those people? Learn how to develop authentic relationships with people long before you learn how to vision.

Critical Thinking. As you grow further as a leader and begin to get involved with complex organizations, you’ll find that instead of being called upon to create a vision, you’ll be more likely called upon to sort through an onslaught of visions and prioritize the most important ones. 

The list could go on and on. Listening skills, emotional intelligence, planning skills, negotiation, etc. I’m not sure how far it would take me to get to vision, but it would take a while.

What are your thoughts? Do we put too great an emphasis on vision for leaders?

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Purple Ribbon

Over the years, a number of sources have been credited with originating the use of purple ribbon as a unifying symbol of courage, survival, honor and dedication to ending domestic violence.

Although the exact history of the purple ribbon is difficult to pinpoint, aross the country, families and friends of victims have adopted the purple ribbon to remember and honor their loved ones who have lost their lives at the hands of a person they once loved and trusted. Shelters and local battered women's programs use the purple ribbon to raise awareness about the crime of domestic violence in their communities.

Purple ribbons are...
  • made into pins and passed out at local events
  • embroidered on t-shirts, hats and bags
  • tied to the antennae of police cars
  • hung on doors
  • wrapped around trees
  • draped over fences at murder scenes
In addition to the demonstration of support for victims and advocates, the display of purple ribbons throughout a community conveys a powerful message that there's no place for domestic violence in the homes, neighborhoods, workplaces or schools of its citizens.

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Recent events..

 The chapter members are "deep" into finals week. The chapter house for the most part is very quite and women can be seen in nearly every room hitting the books studying for their exams.
 photo above is taken in the informal living room of women spread out over all of the couches studying
(pardon the quality as it is from a cell phone)
 Ali was awarded Pi Kappa Phi Sweetheart..
Brooke was 1st Place in Phi Kappa Tau's Dancing with the Greeks Philanthropy

Look forward to post again next week from our summer vacation!

Monday, April 25, 2011

On last Hurrah!

Last week was senior week at Beta Eta. The seniors received scrapbooks created by their little sisters. These scrapbooks were left in the upstairs TV room for all sisters to sign. One this if for sure these scrapbooks become keepsakes for a lifetime. They contain photos, stories, letters, goals and dreams.

Senior week also consisted of Senior Night dinner, where seniors choose the menu, this year appetizer night, a  senior night out of the town- where seniors donned their seniors shirts from the chapter paired with black and neon, glowing necklaces, and some even donned tutus. From the looks of it they had a blast!!!

This week is exam week, so things will be pretty quite around the house, as sisters study for finals and seniors prepare for graduation. 


Friday, April 22, 2011

Fratty Friday- Real issues collegiate women are facing..

Two very powerful videos for us to reflect upon today. 
Eating Disorders are a very real issue that many collegiate women deal with today.



if you know someone who is struggling with an Eating Disorder, please reach out, and partner with them on the issue. Together we can fight the issue, and find a solution
Thank you to our fraternal friends at Tri-Delta for the 2nd video

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

"Dead week" is here

Yes, that is the slang term for the week before final exams.. and while girls would rather be at the beach, they are finding themselves in Strozier library studying! Just one more week and it will be summer time for for all. Look forward to sharing summer plans with you in upcoming weeks!!! Until then best of luck to all collegians everywhere who are studying for finals..
(Photo from all chapter retreat a few weekends ago)

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Alumnae Spotlight

Congratulations to our newest alumnae members.. The 2011 Spring Beta Eta graduates..

Below are the ladies (minus a few) celebrating Hall of Commitment!!!

Monday, April 18, 2011

BH's VP Education & Assistant head to HQ

This weekend the chapters VP Education, Caitlin, & her assistant, Erin headed to Alpha Chi Omega HQ in Indianapolis for MyJourney Training. While the weather was quite cold, & rainy in Indy- the women kept a positive attitude and were able to get a great deal out of the program..
 VP Education Advisor, Jennifer (Theta Lamba/pictured below with her brick ) attended along with Chapter Advisor Britain.
 The Founders Pathway Garden behind HQ is a beautiful addition to the property! We especially loved the rod iron lyres. One of them being a donation from our very own BH Alumna, Aggie! We were also quite excited to see BH recognized for reaching Presidents Roll (minimum of $100,000 in cumulative Foundation giving) on the wall at HQ..
 So why were we there? Beta Eta is one of 10 Alpha Chi Omega chapters, that piloted the new 4 year experience program during the 2010-2011 school year. The chapter launched the Freshman and Junior programs, and will continue to pilot the program during the 2011-2012 school year. The 4 year experience program "MyJourney" is an amazing program that allows women of the chapter to attend workshops that are targeted to experiences and events that they are experiencing at their time in college. 

Friday, April 15, 2011

Fraternity is Like a Baseball Game

Another amazing article from Fraternal Thoughts Blog

The impending arrival of April signals the return of America’s pastime, the great sport of baseball.  There’s nothing like the smell of freshly cut grass joined together with the aroma of roasted peanuts.  The silence of winter is broken by the sound of a THWACK as wood bat meets cowhide ball, and the WHUMP of a fist pounding a freshly oiled glove until it’s ready to field a grounder.

I love baseball for many reasons, including its lessons about life, leadership, and fraternity.  Here are a few:

Moments of Consequence
While baseball is a team sport, it is full of moments of individual consequence.  Whereas in some team sports (e.g., soccer) it’s easy to be anonymous and hidden in lieu of the team, individuals often take center stage in baseball.  There are moments when a player can try to hide (think little league right-fielders), but they can’t stay hidden forever.  At some point, it will be their turn and they’ll stand at home plate with a bat in hand and the world watching.  And chances are for that batter, it will end badly.  A good batting average is .300.  This means that a great batter will strike out two-thirds of the time!

And so, while a player will have many moments when he makes contact with the ball and gets on base or even drives in a run, that same player will have more moments when he will take a long slow walk back to the dugout in defeated silence.  He let down his team.  It’s gut-wrenching.  Learning to handle that defeat and be resilient is one of the best character lessons baseball can teach. 

In fraternity, there are also moments of consequence; moments when the fraternity is counting on an individual player.  The intensity of the fraternity or sorority experience can create those gut-wrenching moments because you just don’t want to let your brothers or sisters down.  It could be falling short on a project, failing to meet academic standards, or making an unethical and haunting choice.

Of course, there will be moments of glorious success when a member can trot the bases as applause thunders around him.  But how about those times in which he fails?  How does he show his character in those moments? 

Moments of Glory, Moments of Sacrifice
It’s the bottom of the ninth inning with the score tied and two outs.  The star player comes to bat and the crowd is shouting for him to send the ball over the left field fence.  He obliges and launches a huge home run that wins the game.  The crowd goes wild as he soaks in the glory of a momentous occasion.

It’s the next night.  Again, it’s the bottom of the ninth inning, with the score tied and a runner on first.  There are no outs.  Th star player comes to bat and the crowd is shouting for him to send the baseball over the left field fence again.  As the first pitch comes, the star player crouches down and bunts to ball only a few feet in front of the plate.  It’s an easy out for the catcher who throws the ball to first.  Meanwhile, the runner who was on first was able to make it to second.  He is now in scoring position, meaning that all it takes is a base hit to bring him home. 

The star player did the furthest thing from hitting a home run, but the crowd still applauds loudly as he returns to the dugout.  Why?  He just sacrificed his success so that the team had a better chance to win.

The next batter gets a base hit, the runner scores, and the game is won.

A fraternity can be a wonderful vehicle for individual achievement and glory.  In fact, there is no sweeter feeling than succeeding in the company of your brothers or sisters. 

A fraternity can also be a wonderful vehicle for invidual sacrifice.  We all take an oath to an organization that we are expected to care for.  Fraternity helps us learn the power and satisfaction of contributing to a cause greater than our own self interests.

In short, there will be times to bunt and times to knock it out of the park.

Many Different Strengths Lead to Success
Babe Ruth, widely considered to be the best baseball player ever, had a body type closer to mine than Bo Jackson, and that’s not a compliment.  Baseball players succeed for many different reasons, all based upon the strengths they bring to the team.  Some, like Ricky Henderson, use lightning quick speed to be a terror on the bases.  Some, like Cecil Fielder, are as big as a sumo wrestler and can hit a ball into the next county.  Others, like Derek Jeter, use their reflexes to field any ball that comes their way.  And even others, like Cal Ripken, Jr. have such good hand-eye coordination that they rarely strike out.

A good manager will use players with particular strengths at opportune times.  If he needs a runner to steal a base, he bring in a speedy pinch runner.  If a left-handed pitcher has a better chance of striking out the batter, he’ll call to the bullpen. 

There is also a science to how managers make out their batting order so that strengths are maximized.

In the same way, good fraternities allow their members to use their strengths as much as possible.  Those skilled at the art of conversation are on the front lines for recruitment.  Those who have strong fiscal sense excel as Treasurers.  Good writers can put together newsletters for the organization. There is no singular skill set for a good fraternity member. 

The Moments Between the Action
One of the primary reasons I love baseball as I grow older is the pace of play.  This is also why so many people hate baseball.  I admit, it can move pretty slow.  But, at some point in your life, you may agree with me that slow is something to cherish.

The slow moments are often the times when friendship is strengthened.  When you watch a baseball game, pay attention to when the cameras turn to the pitchers in the bullpen.  It’s rare when they aren’t smiling or laughing as they pass the time waiting for their turn.  The same can be said for the dugouts.  Camaraderie is very evident in baseball.

And there is a reason why baseball is still the best spectator sport for families and friends.  There is little to do between innings than to turn to that person sitting beside you in the tight quarters of a ballpark and just talk with them.  Fathers and mothers and sons and daughters and friends and neighbors taking the time for conversation.  Oh, how we need that more than ever.

The undergraduate fraternity experience is much more fast-paced than most people want or expect.  There is much to be gained by cherishing the moments “between innings” when there is nothing more to do than to sit next to a brother or sister and talk about life. 

For life, like a baseball game, is meant to be savored. 

So, those are a few reasons why I love baseball and even believe it should be considered the official sport of fraternity.  But, I’m biased.  It should be noted that baseball certainly has its share of problems as well.  The whole steroids issue is a sticky one, and I wrote about it a couple of years ago.

Despite those challenges, I will continue to watch and observe the great lessons the game can teach us.  Count me among those who get a little extra spring in their step as the air gets warmer, the skies get bluer, and baseball players across the land take the field.